Where is the Time?

Being on several lv-headshot-2016-203x300WhatsApp groups (as almost everyone is, these days) I received a longish post in Marathi recently. It was a story of  an elderly man who meets a dashing,  distant relative.

Any plans for marriage?, the ‘Kaka’ asks and was told by the IT engineer that hehad none.
Where is the time for it?

One day he comes and tells Kaka of his impending marriage. When did he “see the girl” as is the practice in Indian arranged marriages? Oh no.  They ‘met’ on the Internet, liked each other’s  views and decided to tie the knot. Where is the time to go for ‘mulgi pahayla”  (going to see the girl).

How about the wedding card, the purchases, the personal invitations? He came to Kaka  only as he was just passing by.  All  others  were invited on WhatsApp. All purchases have been done online. Where is the time for doing all that physically?

Kaka finds just a small group attending the marriage. Where is the priest?  No. A recording  of the marriage mantras was enough. Where is the time for getting a priest and elaborate rituals?

Gifts were sent to all by courier. Many sent blessings online. Where is the time for anything more?

At a subsequent meeting the youth tells there was no honeymoon trip. With both working, where is the time for it?  Do they spend quality  time together? Yes, on the internet and through texting and WhatsApp  messages.

One day Kaka receives a mail that   “the stark would bring  the bundle of joy” some months later. Any elders coming to take care of her? Any help needed?  What about the ‘bridal shower’ as Westerns call it?

Nothing to worry. She was registered with a maternity home and “package deal” made for all arrangements. Where is the time elaborate rituals?

Around the expected date of delivery, late one night, Kaka receives a phone call from a hospital. The expectant mother was admitted. There was some complications and the doctors asked the father-to-be to call the elders of the family.

Kaka and Kaki rush to the hospital, recalling all these instances on the way. The young man was crying. On Kaka’s shoulder, amidst tears he tells how his wife was declared critical and how the doctors asked him to inform the elders.  Now he found the importance of a human touch – the presence of well-wishers who could share both your joy and sorrow. The package deal does not include that.

Tears cannot be wiped  through  the laptop or on mobile phone.

The story is a reflection of today’s way of life – especially in the cities. The mad rush is unending.  We have more means of communication, but spend all the time on Facebook, WhatsApp, TV, mobile phones or net surfing. Where is the time for people?

Lack of time is one of the major problems of most people today. Time management has become a major subject of study in management schools. The Indian time management technique is to put the clock five or ten minutes ahead. And when it shows the time  is up, you tell yourself (and others) that the watch is ahead. So you will be late  — as usual.

It is time to pause and  think. The mad rush will only lead to stress, tension  and the ailments brought by blood  pressure, to nervous breakdowns and heart attacks.

The blurb of Laura Vanderkam’s book ‘168 Hours‘ (mentioned by my post on New  Year resolutions)  is  “You have more time than you think”.  The author (in picture) says “there is time for anything that matters”. Her website http://www.my168hours.com helps people rearrange their time allotment to  realise their dreams and aspirationd.

 At the end of the first chapter is an Excel  spread-sheet  that can help you rearrange your priorities and find the time for what you  want without asking “Where is the time?”


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B. Someswar Rao

60 years of journalism, from the age of 16, and two books later, life has so much more to offer, there is no looking back. Not yet. Unstoppable after 70 is a simple expression of my thoughts, my triumphs, my failures and everything that makes this journey incredible. My books: - A TOWN CALLED PENURY- the changing culture of Indian journalism - JOURNALISM - Ethics, Codes, Laws Working on: - 'THE OUTHOUSE ON THE FIRST FLOOR - Coming of (Old)Age in India'

3 thoughts on “Where is the Time?”

  1. Very ture, that’s the problem our generation is facing.
    A lot must have skipped this post too thinking “where is the time”.

  2. In our days we used to have lot of time to do things. Now,I have to say – yes! they don’t have time. If it is a bachelor he goes to bed late night after watching Whats-App or visiting pub. How he can get up early? If married and both employed,they are busy since morning, po busy to even look at a watch as they have get set and go. Only if one is a home-maker they will have time. My sympathies are there with those who really don’t have time.
    There is another joke: A young man from US tells his father that he has chosen a girl and got married on internet. Then the father tells him to have children also on internet. That may be the plight of the youth in near future.

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