WHAT ARE YOU thankful for? A grandchild asked in the USA where Thanksgiving Day (last Thursday) is a big occasion.
I could not think of anything. That’s perhaps the reason why the day is not celebrated in India.
My ‘nothing’ shocked everyone. Are you not thañkful for being alive? No. I always wanted to end a meaningless and futile existence.
For your family? It only gives me pain – when I realise I am only a burden.
For all the good things you have had in life? I realise that they were all because of others. I did nothing to deserve them. My (late) wife and children tolerated my shortcomings and their good deeds were rewarded with my not causing them any more problems than I already created.
I could have come for just a few days – not months just to justify the big cost of flying here. But I realised it too late.
These are facts I cannot do anything about now.
Yes. There is much to be thankful for… that at almost 80 the end (hopefully) is not far away.
WORDPRRSS SHUT ME out of my own blog on laptop asking for a decade-old passwornd. I could not get the ‘title’ page to write on.
I found, however, that the WP app on my smartphone enabled me to keep writing. I could resume the blog; I felt I was really ‘unstoppable’.
It was a miracle of technology and though too old to master it, I clung to it desperately.
Writing on phone in a train or plane with auto-‘correct’ changing correct words into meaningless gibberish, has however added to the problems of failing sight and memory.
Though I found quite a few blogs written in poor language and with mistakes of grammar, too many typos in my posts worried me. After all I lived for the last 60 years on writing.
But along with technology habits also changed. Reading has beome out of fashion and Google the repository of all knowledge. S
o you need not have any background or information. You just Google for it when needed.
It all comes back to the basic issue of old, outdated, worn-out brains still thinking they have some knowledge (from just being alive for too long, which they confuse with experience) to pass on to the new generation.
It is not easy for ‘old foggies’ to accept the truth that it is no virtue in being ‘unstoppale‘ just by being alive just on borrowed time, having ‘outlived their utility‘, an expression one of my ex-editors was fond of (and which, I argued then, meant it was time for them to die).
He was right. And luckily he is dead.
I am not that lucky..
THE ONLY ONE (OR ONE OF THE TWO OR THREE) WHO READS ALL MY POSTS, A former student of my journalism class, commented on a recent post, “Good…but could be a longer post.”
I replied that I found blog posts of a few words get scores of ‘like’s and followers while long, studied, researched ones with a lot of information get very few. And, moreover, Continue reading The Long And Short Of It
When you are over 70 ( unstoppable or not), old age and death never cease to be on your horizon. Your eyes drift to the obituary column involuntarily. Some put up a cheery facade and hide those thoughts. Others like me plan a book like ‘THE OUTHOUSE ON THE FIRST FLOOR – Coming of (Old)Age in India‘ only to abandon it as no one takes it seriously.
The first confrontation a working person has with old age is retirement.
Retirement is traumatic. When 59 years, 11 months and 29 days old, you are an earning member doing your duties diligently. The very next day you are considered useless. From a contributor to the economy, you become a human parasite, a burden on the society and on your own family. In the USA Continue reading Are You Retired But Not Tired?
You greet an elder with respect in India and he or she would say (or at least used to say) “Sau Sal Jiyo” (Live a Hundred Years). Every language in India has an equivalent of this blessing, though some may consider it a curse today.
Is long life desirable at all? Will not many people welcome being able to end their lives if it could be done painlessly, quickly and without causing any problem (other than emotional) to others? Should euthanasia be legalized?
These questions, especially the last one, keep popping up every now and then. Courts have been approached several times to allow either euthanasia (mercy killing) of people with incurable diseases or suicide by those who feel death would be merciful to themselves and those
A ‘Geribot’ to care for the aged?